This is my personal favorite. I have always had a special place in my heart for noodles. You can make your own noodles or you can buy the kind you love. You can easily use noodles made with alternative flours to be gluten free and/or low carb.Continue reading “Chicken Noodle Soup”
Hello zebras and spoonies! Thank you for coming. I’m glad you’re here today.
I want to address a question that was raised in one of my support groups on Facebook and basically the question was, if you could go back in time and get diagnosed sooner: would you do it? I think that’s an interesting intellectual exercise.Continue reading “Would You Go Back?”
Hello, my zebras and spoonies! Thank you for coming in and hanging out with me today, I am glad you are here.
This week for me has been a bit of an adventure. So I finished my previous nursing contract and I have started at my next nursing contract. And well, stuff always comes up with change.Continue reading “092521”
Hello, my zebras and spoonies How are you today, I’m super glad that you’re here hanging out with me. So today I want to talk about the ED: its role and relationship with those of us that have chronic illness.
I frequently hear people talking about their experiences in the ED. There is a distinct dissatisfaction amongst the chronic illness community in the way that the ED handles our cases. I wanted to talk about some of the reasons that this happens, and maybe talk about what we as patients could be doing to maybe improve that relationship and to maybe avoid the ED.Continue reading “The Role of the ED in Managing Chronic Illness”
Hello, today I want to talk about a difficult topic for me, and one that is political. I want to talk about COVID. I want to talk about some of the effects that it’s been having on my life personally, the effects that it’s having on our medical system, and the consequences that the nurses and other health care staff are dealing with because of individual choices that are being made.Continue reading “The Cost of Covid”
Hello May zebras and spoonies. Thank you for coming in and visiting and hanging out with me today. I’m glad that your hare. Yeah.
All right, so today I’m going to talk about ADHD again, still, some more. One of the things that people often talk about is ADHD is a superpower. Yeah, I don’t buy into that. I personally don’t feel like my ADHD is superpower. A lot of my ADHD stuff makes me a hot mess. I mean, there are days that I sit here and I think to myself, “Am I really an adult?” because I don’t feel like I’m doing these things right. Let’s just be honest having difficulty paying attention and being impulsive and having dysregulation of your emotions is hard and it can be messy. It can make life complicated, and it just can make everything else in your life so much harder.Continue reading “Is ADHD a Super Power?”
Broken, scattered pieces
Laying strewn across the floor
Something missing and lost forever
I cannot no longer see my future
Or the person I was becoming
Now, I’m undone and something else
I am this diagnosis
This label that owns me
Stealing everything I imagined I’d become
And rewriting me without my consent
As my body cracks and crumbles
My hope turns to dust
Leaving me here to stare at my mortality in the mirror
Hello, my zebras and spoonies. Thank you for coming and hanging out with me today. I am glad that you are here!
Today, I’m going to talk about some of the myths around stimming.
Well, first of all, what is stimming? Stimming is a self stimulatory behavior, and it is a sensation seeking that can ease feelings of anxiety, frustration and boredom. Some people find stimming pleasurable, or fun or relaxing.
The first myth that I want to address around stimming is that it is something that only neurodivergent people do. The truth is that stimming is something that every human being alive engages in to some degree, because stimming exists on a continuum, just like most of human behavior. Most people stim, at least some of the time. So, if you’re chewing on a pencil, biting your nails, tapping your fingers on a desk, twirling your hair around your finger, flattening out the wrinkles in your clothes etc. these things are stimming behaviors. They’re things that we engage in, when we’re bored or frustrated or anxious, and we all do it, you don’t have to be autistic or ADHD to be doing the whole stimming thing. That’s the first myth.
The second myth is that somehow stimming is harmful. It’s not 99% of the time. Stimming is just a repetitive behavior that humans engaged in that has a sense of familiarity and habituation that makes us feel comfortable and safe. It’s completely harmless, there’s no harm in drumming your fingers on the table unless you’re sitting next to somebody who will thump you for it. There are some kinds of stimming that can cause physical damage and these self injurious behaviors need to be addressed, but that is not stimming as a whole. I mean some people engage in nail biting to the point that it causes bleeding painful fingers. This is problematic. There are people who engage in skin picking, where they create wounds, and there are people who bang their head against a wall. All of these behaviors are self injurious. And that’s what’s problematic, not the fact that they’re stimming. So we really need to look at the behavior on a case by case basis and evaluate their behavior for itself and its own sake and ask, Is it causing harm for this individual and if it’s not, leave it alone, because we all do it.
In fact, most stimming behavior is largely ignored. I mean most people don’t think about it when somebody is smoothing over their hair or twirling a strand of hair with their finger. We don’t look at that and say, oh, this person is stimming and they’re anxious. But that’s probably exactly what’s going on. They’re anxious in this social interaction, and they’re engaging in this stimming behavior by twirling their hair around their finger, and it’s helping them deal with the anxiety of the social interaction that they’re currently engaging in. And it’s totally part of being human.
So those are my two myths that I wanted to bust. Is that stimming is part of being human, not part of being neurodivergent. And that stimming is harmful because it’s really not. There are some types of stimming that’s harmful, but it’s a really small minority. For the most part, stim on. And, hey, Get your relaxation and your comfort where they come.
One of the things about ADHD that many people don’t know about is “the wall.” Well, that’s what I call it anyway. I go on screech for endless days and seem full of an eternal amount of mental energy. Until I’m not. And it comes sudden. I just hit this wall and then all I want to do is curl up in a hole and hide from the world. This cloud of apathy swallows me up and I find it a struggle to get just the every day things done. A deep, aching brain fatigue washes over me. For some reason, the world doesn’t recognize “the wall” as a valid reason for an impromptu vacation from life for a few days so I have to continue to slog through and it completely sucks.Continue reading “The Wall”
It could be worse
But I wish it was something better
Branding me, scarring me, breaking me
In all the places you cannot see
I walk through the crowd
A spector of suffering unrecognized
Looking the same as those around me
And I wonder if they feel the same
Bitter, iron bars caging around me
Biting down into my bones
Seeping into the fundamental programming
Forever altering who I am
I clutch upon the thing with feathers
That perches precariously in my soul
I wish I could hear it sing
Letting the little bird go
I watch it fly away, fly away
And with a fragile voice
Begin to sing