Getting Better Sleep

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Not getting enough sleep is a common problem for those of use with chronic illness, so that’s what I’m going to be talking about today. We run around sleep deprived and stressed out. This takes a heavy toll on our bodies and degrades our health. The most important thing that you can do to improve your health is to improve your sleep.

The first thing to mention is the paradox that the more tired you are, the less likely you are to sleep well. This is why it is essential that you listen to your body and sleep when you’re tired. If you can’t sleep at that time, consider taking a nap to boost your energy. If you stay awake through this call for sleep, you are likely to hit that “second wind” which makes it much more difficult to fall asleep later.

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Napping

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Today I’m going to talk about one of my favorite things: naps! I personally believe that naps are given a bad rap and are usually under rated. I personally wish that I could go back and claim all the naps I refused as a child…

Afternoon nap-time typically coincides with a brief lag in the body’s internal alerting signal. This signal, which increases throughout the day to offset the body’s increasing drive to sleep, wanes slightly in mid-afternoon, giving sleep drive a slight edge. Napping also typically happens during the warmest period of the day and generally follows a large mid-day meal, which explains why afternoon sleepiness is so often associated with warm afternoon sun and heavy lunches.

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Relaxing for Sleep

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Do you find yourself unable to sleep or waking up night after night? Residual stress, worry, and anger from your day can make it very difficult to sleep well. So, today I’m going to be talking about some of the things that you can do to help with your sleep.

  • If anxiety or chronic worrying dominates your thoughts at night, there are steps you can take to learn to break the mental habit and look at life from a more positive perspective. Even counting sheep is more productive than worrying at bedtime.
  • If the stress of work, family, or school is keeping you awake, you may need help with stress management. By learning how to manage your time effectively, handle stress in a productive way, and maintain a calm, positive outlook, you’ll be able to sleep better at night.
  • The more overstimulated your brain becomes during the day, the harder it can be slow down and unwind at night. During the day, many of us over-stress our brains by constantly interrupting tasks to check our phones, emails, or social media. Try to set aside specific times for these things, and focus on one task at a time. When it comes to getting to sleep at night, your brain won’t be accustomed to seeking fresh stimulation and you’ll be better able to unwind.
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Positive Self Talk

Positive Self Talk is one of those coping skills that is rarely taken seriously. But the thing is that it is easy to do, is free, can be done any where and only takes a few minutes from your day. The worst thing that can happen is that you feel silly. So, why not give it a try? But you have to give it an honest go. Do it for at least a week, several times a day. While waiting in line or driving your car, stop a moment and give yourself a quick one line pep talk.

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The Dichotomy of My Mind

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Today, I am going to talk about my brain and the strange dichotomy that lives there.

In a way, I am comfortable with the weirdness with in myself. I feel that I know it and have worn it like a familiar, well broken in pair of boots. But I have always struggled to talk about it in a meaningful way. It is difficult to talk about it in a manner that makes sense to other people. I usually just leave people giving me that vague, quizzical look. Or the one that suggests I have grown another head which happens to be of an alien variety.

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My EDS

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Today I’m going to be talking about my experience with Elhers Danlos Syndrome Hypermobile type as part of the “My Diagnosis” series. Now that I’ve covered all my mental health topics, I feel like the physical topic that I should start with is hEDS. That’s because this is the big one for me. It really can be argued that all my other physical problems come back to this one problem.

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Giving Emotional Space

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Today I am going to be talking about relationships again. Because they are important. We need them to be healthy people.

Relationships are dialogue and action. We seem to be more aware of the action part then we are of the dialogue part. Of course not keeping promises is a problem as is failing to keep our end of a bargain. But the words we choose and how we say things to each other matters just as much. Often, it is what we say to each other that kills intimacy rather then what we are doing.

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Let Your Child Fail

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here. Today I want to talk about letting your child fail. I think, as a parent, this was the hardest thing for me to do. Every time my daughter was hurting or struggling with a problem, I really wanted to make it better for her because seeing her hurting is so hard. And the truth is that hasn’t gotten any easier now that she is an adult. Loving someone as deeply as we love our children means that we will suffer when they suffer. But we have to let them fail.

Why?

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