My Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today. I’m glad that you are here. Today I am going to be talking about my experiences with Body Focused Repetitive Behaviors or BFRB as another installment in the “My Diagnosis” Series. This post comes with a warning: there are some photos included that show injuries from BFRB. Please, don’t proceed with the post if this kind of photo will trigger you.

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My ADHD: Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and visiting with me today. I’m glad that you are here. Today is my second installment for the “My Diagnosis” series and the second part that is talking about My ADHD.

I want to start by talking about the fact that Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) is not a symptom listed in the DSM5. This has caused many people to tell me that it isn’t really a part of ADHD. The thing to keep in mind is the actual role and purpose of the DSM5. It is a diagnostic manual. This means that the purpose of the book is not to cover each diagnosis in it’s fullness. The purpose of the book is to cover the criteria that are needed to be diagnosed with the diagnosis. This means that every diagnosis in the DSM5 is not represented in it’s full capacity. It is only presented in the manner that will allow a provider to know if someone has met (or not met) the diagnostic criteria for a disorder. There are many aspects to all of these diagnoses that are not talked about in the DSM5 because they are not diagnostic features of the diagnosis.

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My ADHD Part One: The King Pin

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and visiting me today. I am glad that you’re here.

Today I am going to be talking about my personal experience with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD). It didn’t take me very long to realize that I was going to have to break this diagnosis up into multiple posts. There is just so much to talk about. The diagnosis has that much of an effect in my life.

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MENTAL ILLNESS IS INVISIBLE

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and visiting with me today. I’m glad that you’re here.

Today I’m going to be talking about the idea that mental illness is an invisible illness. This is something that I both agree and don’t agree with. And here is a trigger warning: I will be talking about suicide in this post. So if that is a topic that you have a difficult time with then you should probably pass on this one.

I get the idea that you can’t look at someone and know that they have mental illness. The same way that you can’t look at someone and know that they have high blood pressure. In this way, mental illnesses are invisible.

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Parenting the Neurodivergent

Hello, may zebras and spoonies! Thanks for coming in visiting with me today. I’m glad you are here.

Today I’m gonna be talking about ADHD. Big surprise. I know, right? Because when do I ever talk about that?

One of the things that I see parents of children with ADHD frequently ask in the support groups is what they can do to be better parents for children who have ADHD. And I’ll be honest, that in the support groups thus far, I have never answered this question. I’ve never felt like I had a good answer to this question. And I’ve spent a lot of time trying to think about what my parents could have done differently; could have done better to have given me a better start in life. And instead, I shifted it and started thinking about what it was in my childhood that marked me the most and gave me the most struggles as an adult. So I’m going to start my discussion there.

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The Obesity Discussion

Hello my zebras and spoonies, thank you for coming and hanging out with me today. I am glad that you are here.

Today I’m going to be talking about obesity, because this is a complicated and touchy topic. For those of you who don’t know, I’m going to start by talking about a little bit of my own personal history in that I used to be morbidly obese. I have been struggling a lot with my weight and have historically had some good success. I have lost enough weight that while I am still obese, I am no longer in the category of being morbidly obese and this is a huge win for me. But the fight is constant and every day and really difficult. And I don’t need to tell anybody who has tried to lose weight how amazingly difficult of a task that is.

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I am not the person you see
as I am living here behind my mask.
You have taught me
that be who I am isn’t safe.
You taught me this with your words,
with the way you’ve shunned me.
You taught me this when you laughed
and made fun of me for being different.
The teacher lied to me,
when she said that words could never hurt me.
Sticks and stones break my bones
and the words cut something deeper.
When you told me, I wasn’t good enough, I believed you.
When you told me, I was lazy, I believed you.
These words you gave me,
became part of who I am.
What is said, is done.
You can never take them back.
And now I live here, behind my mask.