Coping Skills: Part Two

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thank you for coming and hanging out with me today. I am glad that you are here.

Today I want to revisit the topic of how I cope with my chronic illness. I made a previous post about this that focused on the philosophy that I use when thinking about my chronic illness that allows me to better manage the challenges I face. You can read that here:

Coping with Chronic Illness

You can also listen to the pod cast here:

Coping with Chronic Illness

But I am revisiting the topic to talk about it from a more practical perspective. I want to talk about some coping skills or tools that you can use to help get you through the tough times. As I got to working on this, I realized that there was a lot of material here, so I’ve broken it into two parts. This is the promised second post about coping skills.

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Festival of Sleep

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for coming and visiting me today, I’m glad that you are here.

Today is actually a holiday. Admittedly, one that most people have never heard of and one that few people celebrate. Today is the Festival of Sleep Day. It is also National Straw Drinking Day, Weigh-In Day, National Chocolate Covered Cherry Day, and Humiliation Day. There are a lot of strange, little know holidays out there that few people know about or celebrate. I’ve decided that I will be highlighting some of the ones that I think are fun or that highlight important issues. If you’d like to know more about these strange little holidays, you can go to Days of the Year or Holiday Insights. Because the strange fact of the matter is that there is a holiday on every day of the year and on most days, there is actually more then one.

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Recording Doctor Appointments

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thanks for visiting and hanging out with me today, I’m glad that you are here.

Today I want to talk about patients recording their doctor appointments. With about everyone having a smart phone these days, it is pretty easy to take photos, videos and audio recordings of about everything in our lives. Many have started including their doctor appointments in the list of things to record. There is a lot to this topic, but let’s start with the the legal stuff.

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Coping Skills: Part One

Hello my Zebras and Spoonies! Thank you for coming and hanging out with me today. I am glad that you are here.

Today I want to revisit the topic of how I cope with my chronic illness. I made a previous post about this that focused on the philosophy that I use when thinking about my chronic illness that allows me to better manage the challenges I face. You can read that here:

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The Obesity Discussion

Hello my zebras and spoonies, thank you for coming and hanging out with me today. I am glad that you are here.

Today I’m going to be talking about obesity, because this is a complicated and touchy topic. For those of you who don’t know, I’m going to start by talking about a little bit of my own personal history in that I used to be morbidly obese. I have been struggling a lot with my weight and have historically had some good success. I have lost enough weight that while I am still obese, I am no longer in the category of being morbidly obese and this is a huge win for me. But the fight is constant and every day and really difficult. And I don’t need to tell anybody who has tried to lose weight how amazingly difficult of a task that is.

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Update 112321

Hello my zebras and spoonies! thank you for coming and hanging out with me. I’m glad that you’re here.

Today I’m just going to give an update of life, the universe and everything that is me. Some backstory is that I have endometriosis and with that I’ve had a lot of pain, which has been progressively getting worse over the last five to six years. I have a Mirena IUD that I’ve been using to control the bleeding and pain. It’s not really doing the job that I need it to do anymore. It has been controlling the bleeding, but not the pain.

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I’m Not Ready!

Something that I frequently hear from people is that they are not ready for something. Be it having children, getting an education or making the changes in their personal lives that they think will make them happy. But here’s the thing: you might never feel ready. Most of the time that people say they aren’t ready, they are really saying that they aren’t comfortable with the idea of the change or the work that the change will involve. But it isn’t about being ready or feeling comfortable. It’s about wanting it. Opportunities rarely come when you feel that you are ready to seize them. Life really just doesn’t work that way. Often times, you have to make the opportunity yourself once you decide that you want something. Things tend to come your way when you feel insecure with your preparation, knowledge and/or skills. But that doesn’t mean you should be ignoring them until you feel ready. You may not get another chance and you are unlikely to ever feel completely ready for it. Most of our lifetime opportunities force us to grow both emotionally and intellectually. They push us to give the best of ourselves, even if that means getting out of our comfort zones. But sacrificing our comfort can give us the chance for personal growth. If you want to change your life for the better, you should open yourself to the opportunities that arise, even if you don’t feel 100% ready.

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Choice

One thing that no one can ever take from you is your power to choose. It is something that you cannot even take from yourself. If you choose to allow others to make choices for you, that is a choice. One that you make each time that you comply with their decisions. There are times that we are compelled to do things by outside forces such as the law, but we still have the power to choose how we will respond. The thing about making choices is that it doesn’t grant you the power to do anything that you want. You are limited by circumstances and by what your imagination can come up with. But you can always choose something. Will you comply with what you have been compelled to do or will you resist? That is a choice and the results of those choices are likely to be different.

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Types of Boundaries

Hello, my zebras and spoonies! Thanks for coming and hanging out with me today. I’m glad that you’re here. So today, let’s talk about boundaries and relationships some more.

The first thing is that it’s absolutely essential to understand is that love equals respect. Doesn’t matter what type of relationship that we’re talking about, if it’s going to be a good, healthy relationship, it is going to be one that is founded upon and centers around, mutual respect. That means that both people’s needs matter equally, and that both parties are going to work for both people’s needs to be met at all times. And that doesn’t mean that there’s going to be times that one person has bigger needs than the other, and that there’s going to be times where one has bigger support needs than the other and that that dynamic doesn’t shift back and forth but that the overall arc is going to be that both people’s needs are being met, equally. It really comes down to respect and respect is really about boundaries and having boundaries in relationships.

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